I love cars. Different types of cars. Sedans and SUVs are by far my favorite, but I really love a car that can hold its own. A car that appears and everyone around literarily doff their hats at its presence. A car that can stare and has a stance of it own. More than what is on the surface, I love to know what’s under the hood. I’m a stickler for high performance engines. Rugged chunks of metal, built to withstand treacherous terrain and all weather situations. Little wonder I’ve bought four cars in total in my short car purchasing history and I keep getting better and better all the time!
Because of this weakness (if you like) that I have, I’m always eager to volunteer to take new cars for a test drive. There’s this thing boiling in my veins when I see a brand new vehicle. It looks like it’s calling to me “come…let me show you what I can do”. Now call that temptation, but its one temptation I have so far not been able to find how to resist. God help me! So I admit, I have taken quite a number of cars for a spin and I can tell you I have first hand experience of “not all that glitters is gold”! Some cars are just all metal and no material; some are all spoilers and no power. Indeed some are all talk and no torque!
You see, I’ve found that most people are just like me. Built into the psyche of every human being is a desire for assurance and reassurance. It’s like we’re naturally wired not to trust what is advertised is what we are offered. We like to be sure, and then when we’re sure, we like to be doubly sure. You know, just in case! We barely have confidence in what other human beings offer to us and we just want to be sure and then sure again that it’s all there. We like to check and double check that what we are offered can actually do what we have been told it can do, or looks and feels like we were told it’s supposed to look and feel like.
I’m sure you can relate to this. Many times you like to try out things before you pay for it. You’ll wear those pair of shoes before you pay for them. There’s no point picking a fancy pair of shoes at the shop just to get home and find its three sizes more than what fits for you. Sometimes even when you are well aware of your shoe size, and you know what you are buying is supposed to fit because of the shoe size tag on it, you still want to go a step further and try it on, just to be doubly sure. It’s not like you don’t trust the person who has offered it or the one who has made it, it’s just that part of you that is yearning to be double sure. I guess we all sort of trust our own senses better. And indeed sometimes, we have been proved right! That size 42 didn’t quite feel like a 42 on your feet did it? And that 16 collar slim fitted shirt actually felt more like a 17 collar loose fit. You leave the place feeling good with yourself. “It was a good thing I checked”.
See, it’s the same reason I like to take a new car for a test drive to see how the machine “puts out”. It’s the same reason why some of us will taste the grain (more like garri) in the market before we order for a measure. It’s the same reason we wait for others to take the first leap before we follow behind. No one wants to be caught unawares, little or no surprises makes life a lot easier to live we think.
Good human thinking. Sensible and logical too. But this desire for second assurance and testing, has often been the excuse for something a lot of folks do. Ever heard or said the words “If we don’t have sex now, how do I know that we’re sexually compatible in marriage”. Now that’s where we need to slow down. Yeah, it’s good to go for a test drive and be double sure even when you are sure, does this kind of excuse for pre-marital sexual escapades check out? Is it really reasonable? It appears logical on the surface and a lot of folks use it to excuse themselves, but let’s see what the true issue is.
We already know from a spiritual standpoint that this argument does not hold water, so I will not be-labor the point. See this scripture:
Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
(Heb 13:4 KJV+)
Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex.
(Heb 13:4 MSG)
Let marriage be had in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled: for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
(Heb 13:4 ASV)
Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter. No sex before marriage…period! There’s no tenable excuse for it from a biblical standpoint.
But then, I like to be a realist, so I usually correlate spiritual things to natural things and see how they work out. So for all of you free thinkers and those who feel these born-again fanatics have come again with their extremist thinking, let’s take a look at this argument strictly from a logical point of view. I’ll just use my test driving analogy to draw a comparison and we’ll see how it all works out.
Say you approach a car dealer to buy a new car. He takes you around the options he’s got – a couple of jeeps, luxury sedans, some pick up trucks and a number of passenger vans. First you have probably already come to the car shop with what you want in mind. You have a list of specifications already. Say you want a sedan with a v6 engine, alloy wheels and a leather upholstery interior, probably you already have a brand of choice. When you enter the dealership, you don’t waste precious time on the jeeps or the pick up trucks. Yeah, sometimes you steal a glance here and there, and you probably even ask how much the shiny black SUV costs. When the dealer tells you…immediately, you focus again on what you came to purchase! Straight to the sedans that meet your specification.
Say you find two or three that meet your specification and they’re all around the same price. On the surface, they look like they have similar attributes. Leather interior, on-dash navigation controls, automatic gear system, anti-lock braking, good engine capacity and all shiny new. To help you decide, you opt to do a test drive on each one of these. You get in the car, start up the engine, engage the gears and away you go. You take the car around bends to see how it reacts. You reach a clear highway and demand power from the engines. You climb a bump or two, ride through a small pothole, to see how the suspension works. You roll up the windows and feel how well the air conditioning works. You rev up a hill to see how much horsepower it really has, before you bring it for a spin back to the car shop. Then you say, yeah I want that car and not that one. That’s probably how someone who’s looking to buy a car would do right?
But consider the person who goes to a car dealership, requests to see the brochure of his dream car, opens the book, and begins to smell the pages, smiling as he does so. He runs his fingers through the picture of the car and his tongue on the centerfold, relishing the semblance of the car, savoring the scent of freshly printed material. Then he asks to see the car. He is shown the car and he repeats the same performance on the body of the car. Caressing the tyres and hugging the chassis. He pops the hood open and begins to massage the engine block. Then he says “yeah, this is the car I want”. The dealer has no problem with that because often the worst cars have the best appearance…believe me I know! That’s quite crazy isn’t it? But that’s exactly what we do when we use sexual activity as a judge to determine who we should spend the rest of our lives with.
Unlike buying a car, the choice of who we marry is a lifetime decision. Even for some people who consider divorce a way out, you will agree with me that the pains of divorce are often too hard for a lot of people to bear that they simply hang on until their miserable lives come to an abrupt end. If you bought the wrong car, you can simply go back and buy another. But if you marry the wrong person, it’s not quite as easy.
Let me talk to the girls for a bit. See, if a guy tells you “I love you, I want to marry you, so let’s make love. At least it’ll show us if we’re sexually compatible before we get married…”, he’s fooling you! He likes your body no doubt but that’s where it ends. If you want to know the truth, every “normal” guy is sexually compatible with every “normal” girl, just like every “normal” human being can breathe in the air. Sexual compatibility is not what it takes to make a marriage happen, work or last! You probably didn’t get that so I’ll just write it again…sexual compatibility is not what it takes to make a marriage happen, work or last! As full blooded human beings, we already have our sexuality fully wired and turned into the “ready” position once we reach adolescence. All we need (I speak for the guys) to get turned on is some visual stimulant, the sanity of our minds and blood pumping in our veins. It’s not rocket science girls, just simple fact. If you’re falling for this kind of stuff all the time, you need to get real!
Let’s talk to the guys now. I’ve had the rare privilege of counseling many young people in my short life on issues relating to relationships and sexuality. Incidentally, I have also heard a lot of comments from guys trying to excuse their being sexually active before marriage. One of the usual statements I have often heard (and I’m sure a lot of you all have heard it too) is “…you don’t buy a shoe without trying if it fits, and you don’t buy a car before test driving it…”. Like I said in my opening statements, good argument! Deserves a clap and a handshake. But here’s my counter proposal. Do you think marriage is really about sex? You wake up in the morning, have sex and butter, then take a love bath, then watch sex tv, then eat sexy lunch, then drive to make out lane, then have sex dinner, then have some more sex until you go to sleep? Our minds have been so conditioned with the erroneous words of popular songs that speak of having “sex all night” and we have come to the thinking that this must be IT! Sorry to burst your bubble but you’re so horribly wrong! Nothing can be farther from the truth. Marriage is a whole gamut of other issues. Expectations, responsibilities, mistakes, corrections, crisis, tears, laughter, joy, shame, embarrassment…you name it. Married folk can correct me if I’m wrong, but sex accounts for less than 1% of the activity of marriage so why is it the only thing we want to check out before making a choice?
It’s not a bad idea to go for a test drive when you find a car you think you want to buy. I think there are a few lessons to learn from the typical things I would look out for before I get down to making my choice of a car. These same lessons are applicable to making the choice of marriage. Here are some of them –
How well does it perform?
When I take a car for a spin, I switch off the sound system and listen to the engine as I depress the throttle and demand power from the engine. As its RPM climbs, I listen carefully for stress and strain signals. Some brand new cars will start to react uncomfortably when they touch 120KPH and stay there for a while, shivering slightly and groaning under the hood.
As normal human beings, we all have different temperaments and react differently. Interestingly, we seem to present our best behavior when we are around someone who we admire or when we know someone who admires us is keenly watching. In normal situations, how does this person act? I know you love the person and all, but how is the person with other people apart from you? How do they treat their friends, their family, their stewards, security men, drivers and ancillary service providers around them? It’ll give you a good picture how you’ll soon be treated.
How well does it perform in off-road situations? What’s the suspension system like?
Your car will sometimes enter some off-road environments…an un-tarred road, a speed bump, an unexpected pot hole. Sometimes, I intentionally test drive a car to some of these bumps to see how well the suspension reacts.
Life presents some unique challenges and marriage does as well. There are a lot of sudden shocks in marriage. A lot of bumps and pothole along the way. How well does your intended spouse perform when they’re under pressure? What happens when they’re pushed to the wall? Can they withstand shock? Do they have a short fuse? Are they impatient? What does it take to offend this person? How long do they stay angry?
What’s the engine capacity?
Cars come in different engine sizes. I have seen massive vehicles with SUV build fitted with a 2.0 liter engine, while you have smaller sedans with less mass sporting 3.5 liter engines, roaring for the kill.
Different people have different levels they can achieve and different thresholds of endurance. Can this person endure when things are rough? In the long traffic situations that life often throws at us, will they overheat and burn out? Can they withstand stress in the long run? Can they sustain when the chips are down? Can they go for the long distance?
What’s the fuel consumption and maintenance cost like?
Just like luxury automobiles, people have different levels of care they demand. What’s the nature of this person’s lifestyle? Can they adapt in unsavory circumstances? How much will it cost me to maintain this person in their lifestyle and improve life for them as it is now? What is this person’s taste like? Can I match up?
What do the reviews say?
I’ve bought a number of cars to date and I’ve come to learn that before you buy a car, you do a search on what previous reviews on the car have to say about the car…it’s handling, it’s performance, it’s systems etc. If you can’t find a document or an internet website that tells you this, just talk to people who have used a similar car in the past.
Have you tried to find out one or two things from some people who know this person? What is their opinion? Yeah, I know that cousin of yours is just jealous and your neighbor’s just envious, but hey are your two close friends, your brother, your aunty’s cousin, your work colleague, your room mate and your church pastor jealous, envious and unnecessarily cantankerous as well? Get real man!
What else can it do?
We all like to drive a posh automobile that can do a little something extra. When I bought one of my cars, I liked to show off that it had a 6 cd in-dash loader system complete with JBL speakers, plus an anti-theft devise that allowed me to demobilize the car remotely. Basically it moves me around, but I didn’t mind the little extra it had.
Ask yourself, apart from the good looks and the butterflies they give you in your stomach, is there something else? There’s got to be that something special, something else that makes the person extra special to you. What makes this person different from all the other suitors I’ve known? Do they have good home making skills? (and that’s not only for the ladies)! Do they have good family relationships?
How much does it cost?
In the final analysis, this is probably the most important question we need to answer when we’re trying to buy a new car. Basically, good cars are expensive to purchase, but not always difficult to maintain. But there are some expensive cars that are not good! Generally however, cheap cars are generally not very good. There are exceptions but these will be in the very very littlest minority. Your worst nightmare though is a cheap car that has a high maintenance cost and let me let know know now…there are many of them around these days. For instance a K…I’d better shut up before I get a law suit in my mail!
Is this person easily influenced, do they come cheap? Are they throwing themselves at you at the slightest opportunity? Are they ready to wait? Some hard to get playing is not bad, but it need not go overboard. Are they worth your trouble? What’s their self esteem like? Do they have mind of their own? Do they have a good sense of self worth. A chronically low sense of self worth is crippling, and a dangerously high one is killing!
Let’s bring it home. See this scripture:
Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
(Pro 31:30 KJV+)
Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-GOD.
(Pro 31:30 MSG)
There’s so much more to look out for when you decide to take the test drive. Sex is not one of them. You can wait until you’re married and you’ll be a lot better fulfilled. Tell off that guy who’s pestering you to prove your love by having sex with him. If he really did love you, he’ll wait and check for other things.
Remain blessed.
Deji Ogunnubi
Because of this weakness (if you like) that I have, I’m always eager to volunteer to take new cars for a test drive. There’s this thing boiling in my veins when I see a brand new vehicle. It looks like it’s calling to me “come…let me show you what I can do”. Now call that temptation, but its one temptation I have so far not been able to find how to resist. God help me! So I admit, I have taken quite a number of cars for a spin and I can tell you I have first hand experience of “not all that glitters is gold”! Some cars are just all metal and no material; some are all spoilers and no power. Indeed some are all talk and no torque!
You see, I’ve found that most people are just like me. Built into the psyche of every human being is a desire for assurance and reassurance. It’s like we’re naturally wired not to trust what is advertised is what we are offered. We like to be sure, and then when we’re sure, we like to be doubly sure. You know, just in case! We barely have confidence in what other human beings offer to us and we just want to be sure and then sure again that it’s all there. We like to check and double check that what we are offered can actually do what we have been told it can do, or looks and feels like we were told it’s supposed to look and feel like.
I’m sure you can relate to this. Many times you like to try out things before you pay for it. You’ll wear those pair of shoes before you pay for them. There’s no point picking a fancy pair of shoes at the shop just to get home and find its three sizes more than what fits for you. Sometimes even when you are well aware of your shoe size, and you know what you are buying is supposed to fit because of the shoe size tag on it, you still want to go a step further and try it on, just to be doubly sure. It’s not like you don’t trust the person who has offered it or the one who has made it, it’s just that part of you that is yearning to be double sure. I guess we all sort of trust our own senses better. And indeed sometimes, we have been proved right! That size 42 didn’t quite feel like a 42 on your feet did it? And that 16 collar slim fitted shirt actually felt more like a 17 collar loose fit. You leave the place feeling good with yourself. “It was a good thing I checked”.
See, it’s the same reason I like to take a new car for a test drive to see how the machine “puts out”. It’s the same reason why some of us will taste the grain (more like garri) in the market before we order for a measure. It’s the same reason we wait for others to take the first leap before we follow behind. No one wants to be caught unawares, little or no surprises makes life a lot easier to live we think.
Good human thinking. Sensible and logical too. But this desire for second assurance and testing, has often been the excuse for something a lot of folks do. Ever heard or said the words “If we don’t have sex now, how do I know that we’re sexually compatible in marriage”. Now that’s where we need to slow down. Yeah, it’s good to go for a test drive and be double sure even when you are sure, does this kind of excuse for pre-marital sexual escapades check out? Is it really reasonable? It appears logical on the surface and a lot of folks use it to excuse themselves, but let’s see what the true issue is.
We already know from a spiritual standpoint that this argument does not hold water, so I will not be-labor the point. See this scripture:
Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
(Heb 13:4 KJV+)
Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex.
(Heb 13:4 MSG)
Let marriage be had in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled: for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
(Heb 13:4 ASV)
Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter. No sex before marriage…period! There’s no tenable excuse for it from a biblical standpoint.
But then, I like to be a realist, so I usually correlate spiritual things to natural things and see how they work out. So for all of you free thinkers and those who feel these born-again fanatics have come again with their extremist thinking, let’s take a look at this argument strictly from a logical point of view. I’ll just use my test driving analogy to draw a comparison and we’ll see how it all works out.
Say you approach a car dealer to buy a new car. He takes you around the options he’s got – a couple of jeeps, luxury sedans, some pick up trucks and a number of passenger vans. First you have probably already come to the car shop with what you want in mind. You have a list of specifications already. Say you want a sedan with a v6 engine, alloy wheels and a leather upholstery interior, probably you already have a brand of choice. When you enter the dealership, you don’t waste precious time on the jeeps or the pick up trucks. Yeah, sometimes you steal a glance here and there, and you probably even ask how much the shiny black SUV costs. When the dealer tells you…immediately, you focus again on what you came to purchase! Straight to the sedans that meet your specification.
Say you find two or three that meet your specification and they’re all around the same price. On the surface, they look like they have similar attributes. Leather interior, on-dash navigation controls, automatic gear system, anti-lock braking, good engine capacity and all shiny new. To help you decide, you opt to do a test drive on each one of these. You get in the car, start up the engine, engage the gears and away you go. You take the car around bends to see how it reacts. You reach a clear highway and demand power from the engines. You climb a bump or two, ride through a small pothole, to see how the suspension works. You roll up the windows and feel how well the air conditioning works. You rev up a hill to see how much horsepower it really has, before you bring it for a spin back to the car shop. Then you say, yeah I want that car and not that one. That’s probably how someone who’s looking to buy a car would do right?
But consider the person who goes to a car dealership, requests to see the brochure of his dream car, opens the book, and begins to smell the pages, smiling as he does so. He runs his fingers through the picture of the car and his tongue on the centerfold, relishing the semblance of the car, savoring the scent of freshly printed material. Then he asks to see the car. He is shown the car and he repeats the same performance on the body of the car. Caressing the tyres and hugging the chassis. He pops the hood open and begins to massage the engine block. Then he says “yeah, this is the car I want”. The dealer has no problem with that because often the worst cars have the best appearance…believe me I know! That’s quite crazy isn’t it? But that’s exactly what we do when we use sexual activity as a judge to determine who we should spend the rest of our lives with.
Unlike buying a car, the choice of who we marry is a lifetime decision. Even for some people who consider divorce a way out, you will agree with me that the pains of divorce are often too hard for a lot of people to bear that they simply hang on until their miserable lives come to an abrupt end. If you bought the wrong car, you can simply go back and buy another. But if you marry the wrong person, it’s not quite as easy.
Let me talk to the girls for a bit. See, if a guy tells you “I love you, I want to marry you, so let’s make love. At least it’ll show us if we’re sexually compatible before we get married…”, he’s fooling you! He likes your body no doubt but that’s where it ends. If you want to know the truth, every “normal” guy is sexually compatible with every “normal” girl, just like every “normal” human being can breathe in the air. Sexual compatibility is not what it takes to make a marriage happen, work or last! You probably didn’t get that so I’ll just write it again…sexual compatibility is not what it takes to make a marriage happen, work or last! As full blooded human beings, we already have our sexuality fully wired and turned into the “ready” position once we reach adolescence. All we need (I speak for the guys) to get turned on is some visual stimulant, the sanity of our minds and blood pumping in our veins. It’s not rocket science girls, just simple fact. If you’re falling for this kind of stuff all the time, you need to get real!
Let’s talk to the guys now. I’ve had the rare privilege of counseling many young people in my short life on issues relating to relationships and sexuality. Incidentally, I have also heard a lot of comments from guys trying to excuse their being sexually active before marriage. One of the usual statements I have often heard (and I’m sure a lot of you all have heard it too) is “…you don’t buy a shoe without trying if it fits, and you don’t buy a car before test driving it…”. Like I said in my opening statements, good argument! Deserves a clap and a handshake. But here’s my counter proposal. Do you think marriage is really about sex? You wake up in the morning, have sex and butter, then take a love bath, then watch sex tv, then eat sexy lunch, then drive to make out lane, then have sex dinner, then have some more sex until you go to sleep? Our minds have been so conditioned with the erroneous words of popular songs that speak of having “sex all night” and we have come to the thinking that this must be IT! Sorry to burst your bubble but you’re so horribly wrong! Nothing can be farther from the truth. Marriage is a whole gamut of other issues. Expectations, responsibilities, mistakes, corrections, crisis, tears, laughter, joy, shame, embarrassment…you name it. Married folk can correct me if I’m wrong, but sex accounts for less than 1% of the activity of marriage so why is it the only thing we want to check out before making a choice?
It’s not a bad idea to go for a test drive when you find a car you think you want to buy. I think there are a few lessons to learn from the typical things I would look out for before I get down to making my choice of a car. These same lessons are applicable to making the choice of marriage. Here are some of them –
How well does it perform?
When I take a car for a spin, I switch off the sound system and listen to the engine as I depress the throttle and demand power from the engine. As its RPM climbs, I listen carefully for stress and strain signals. Some brand new cars will start to react uncomfortably when they touch 120KPH and stay there for a while, shivering slightly and groaning under the hood.
As normal human beings, we all have different temperaments and react differently. Interestingly, we seem to present our best behavior when we are around someone who we admire or when we know someone who admires us is keenly watching. In normal situations, how does this person act? I know you love the person and all, but how is the person with other people apart from you? How do they treat their friends, their family, their stewards, security men, drivers and ancillary service providers around them? It’ll give you a good picture how you’ll soon be treated.
How well does it perform in off-road situations? What’s the suspension system like?
Your car will sometimes enter some off-road environments…an un-tarred road, a speed bump, an unexpected pot hole. Sometimes, I intentionally test drive a car to some of these bumps to see how well the suspension reacts.
Life presents some unique challenges and marriage does as well. There are a lot of sudden shocks in marriage. A lot of bumps and pothole along the way. How well does your intended spouse perform when they’re under pressure? What happens when they’re pushed to the wall? Can they withstand shock? Do they have a short fuse? Are they impatient? What does it take to offend this person? How long do they stay angry?
What’s the engine capacity?
Cars come in different engine sizes. I have seen massive vehicles with SUV build fitted with a 2.0 liter engine, while you have smaller sedans with less mass sporting 3.5 liter engines, roaring for the kill.
Different people have different levels they can achieve and different thresholds of endurance. Can this person endure when things are rough? In the long traffic situations that life often throws at us, will they overheat and burn out? Can they withstand stress in the long run? Can they sustain when the chips are down? Can they go for the long distance?
What’s the fuel consumption and maintenance cost like?
Just like luxury automobiles, people have different levels of care they demand. What’s the nature of this person’s lifestyle? Can they adapt in unsavory circumstances? How much will it cost me to maintain this person in their lifestyle and improve life for them as it is now? What is this person’s taste like? Can I match up?
What do the reviews say?
I’ve bought a number of cars to date and I’ve come to learn that before you buy a car, you do a search on what previous reviews on the car have to say about the car…it’s handling, it’s performance, it’s systems etc. If you can’t find a document or an internet website that tells you this, just talk to people who have used a similar car in the past.
Have you tried to find out one or two things from some people who know this person? What is their opinion? Yeah, I know that cousin of yours is just jealous and your neighbor’s just envious, but hey are your two close friends, your brother, your aunty’s cousin, your work colleague, your room mate and your church pastor jealous, envious and unnecessarily cantankerous as well? Get real man!
What else can it do?
We all like to drive a posh automobile that can do a little something extra. When I bought one of my cars, I liked to show off that it had a 6 cd in-dash loader system complete with JBL speakers, plus an anti-theft devise that allowed me to demobilize the car remotely. Basically it moves me around, but I didn’t mind the little extra it had.
Ask yourself, apart from the good looks and the butterflies they give you in your stomach, is there something else? There’s got to be that something special, something else that makes the person extra special to you. What makes this person different from all the other suitors I’ve known? Do they have good home making skills? (and that’s not only for the ladies)! Do they have good family relationships?
How much does it cost?
In the final analysis, this is probably the most important question we need to answer when we’re trying to buy a new car. Basically, good cars are expensive to purchase, but not always difficult to maintain. But there are some expensive cars that are not good! Generally however, cheap cars are generally not very good. There are exceptions but these will be in the very very littlest minority. Your worst nightmare though is a cheap car that has a high maintenance cost and let me let know know now…there are many of them around these days. For instance a K…I’d better shut up before I get a law suit in my mail!
Is this person easily influenced, do they come cheap? Are they throwing themselves at you at the slightest opportunity? Are they ready to wait? Some hard to get playing is not bad, but it need not go overboard. Are they worth your trouble? What’s their self esteem like? Do they have mind of their own? Do they have a good sense of self worth. A chronically low sense of self worth is crippling, and a dangerously high one is killing!
Let’s bring it home. See this scripture:
Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
(Pro 31:30 KJV+)
Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-GOD.
(Pro 31:30 MSG)
There’s so much more to look out for when you decide to take the test drive. Sex is not one of them. You can wait until you’re married and you’ll be a lot better fulfilled. Tell off that guy who’s pestering you to prove your love by having sex with him. If he really did love you, he’ll wait and check for other things.
Remain blessed.
Deji Ogunnubi
